The reason I say this is that someone got a little confused and went to Galapagos last Saturday:

You'll be pleased to know that I was at Galapagos at 5pm yesterday, melon in hand. I got there and there was a sign saying "closed for private party - wedding", so I asked if I could go in and put down my watermelon. The guy said yes, but that guests were only arriving at 6, which I thought was kinda weird, given that you had told me 4. So I chopped it up and put it on the tables, which were suspiciously empty of other food, and went out to have a drink.

I came back at 6, and the party was great. There were fire dancers and an MC and acrobats and all, and an open bar. No one else was wearing a tie, which I thought wasn't cool, since Ted had specifically asked the men to wear them, but I felt like a tool, so I took mine off too. I had a drink, and looked around for Ted, who is the only one I expected to know, but he wasn't there, so I figured they were going to make a grand entrance.

Anyway, I started talking to some people, and one guy asked me if I was a friend of the bride or groom. "I dunno," I said. "Whichever Ted is." The guy looked at me kind a funny, and said, "I think you mean Toby."

"Uhh, maybe," I said, thinking maybe it was Ted's pet college nickname or something. Then he said he was a friend of Neeley's, which I also thought was nice, but kind of irrelevant, since Ted is marrying Rob. More drinking, more chatting, he said they were friends from Harvard, which made sense, and then someone else came up to me and we went through the same thing again.

The first guy looks at me and says, "Dude, you're at the wrong wedding."

"No way," says I.

"Galapagos, Saturday, Rob and Ted."

"No," says he, "Toby and Neeley."

All the people we were standing around with start nodding and laughing.

"Are you just fucking with me?"

"Not at all, dude. Ask around."

So I asked a couple of people, and everyone confirmed that, indeed, it was Toby and Neeley's wedding at which I had walked in with a melon, cut it up and put it on tables, and had three G&Ts. Needless to say I did not have my invitation, which I lost the day after it arrived, but one of the guys let me use his blackberry to go online and check the wedding blog, which has all the useful information EXCEPT THE DATE. Bastard.

my gosh, there are so many things to think of when planning, preparing for your wedding. who knew? tons and tons of little and big things. i think i have 4 lists going right now (all on the kitchen counter) of what we need to do, buy, get done, make, decopauge, string together, mix and match, clean, wash, bedazzle, find matching fabric for, dry clean, make phone calls for, type up, photograph, order online, return to the store, call a friend about, email, blog, ask a sales associate, look in a catalogue, draw a sketch of, make a blueprint of, write out, find a recipe for, create an ipod playlist of, and on top of that hermia needs a bath!

i know i've said it before, but i'll say it again. thank heavens for our wonderful and supportive and generous friends.

ted and i are heading out today to pick up our rings and to find bowties and shoes for our suits. because, according to Etiquette Grrl Style webpage: "if you want to be Really Original and Snappy, at a daytime informal wedding, nothing beats a Seersucker Suit, Straw Boater, White Bucks, and a Bow Tie."

well, the Straw Boater may be pushing it, huh?

oh, and hey, while searching online for all things wedding, i came across a really lovely blog by two very sweet guys who got married last year. they blogged about the whole procedure--from the proposal to the ceremony and reception. (they started planning their wedding, even sending out save the date cards, and looking into spaces and hotels, 2 YEARS IN ADVANCE!!--JEESH!).
Anyway, read about their whole experience and see their pictures here. (you might click back to Sept. 2002, when they started their journey).

Rob here. i'm still recovering from my bachelor party but was asked by our lovely food wrangler (and my wonderful former brooklyn roommate), liz, to remind everybody to CONFIRM (OR REQUEST AN ASSIGNMENT--IF YOU HAVEN'T DONE SO ALREADY) with lovely foodwrangler and former roommate liz the edible/s you are bringing to the wedding.

1. so she can start getting final counts, and 2. so she knows what utensils and chafing type pans to get, how many sternos, and 3. mostly so she can scope out what delicious things she herself is going to try.




so can y'all email her (AGAIN, IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY--MANY OF YOU TOLD US ON THE INVITE WHAT YOU ARE BRINGING, OR POSSIBLY BRINGING, BUT NOW YOU GOTTA CONFIRM IT WITH THE LIZMEISTER) and tell her about your dainties, er, i mean, delicacies?

click here to email liz

SEE YOU ALL SOON!!


ps- hermia says to dust everything lightly with catnip

A couple of people--well, my mom and one of my aunts--have asked about the dressy-ness of the wedding. Well, it's not black-tie and it's not a hoedown. Guys should wear ties and girls should wear whatever you wear when a guy is wearing a tie. But the wedding is taking place at a refurbished mayonaise factory, so, really, no worries if you want to do something "festive."

I put this on my personal blog a few months ago. I am the bunny and Rob is the kitty-cat.

If you have 'em, bring 'em.

We went wedding suit shopping this week. When we came back with our purchases, Jack wanted to get involved. But lacking vocal chords and opposable thumbs, he was only able to do this:

The wedding and reception are being held at:

Galapagos Art Space
70 North 6th Street
Brooklyn, New York

This is in fashionable, soon-to-be-gentrified Williamsburg, easily accessible by subway and car.

By subway:

Take the L to Bedford. Coming from Manhattan, it's the first stop in Brooklyn. Coming from Brooklyn, it's the last stop before Manhattan. (Funny how that works, hunh?) As it will be Saturday, you will only be able to use the Bedford Avenue exit. So, use it. When you get the street, you will be on the corner of Bedford and North 7th Street. If you are facing Northside Pharmacy on one corner and the Salvation Army on another, you are facing West, which you should do. Turn South onto Bedford. After one block, turn right (or West) onto North 6th Street. yYou will pass hip bars, cool stores, and an American Apparel. Don't stop. Galapagos is two and half blocks West, between Wythe and Kent on the left. There is a large, vertical banner hanging out front.

By car:

Coming from Manhattan, you should take the subway. But if you must drive, take the Williamsburg Bridge, making sure that you are in the outer right hand lane. Get off at the first exit, curving around to the right until you are on Broadway. At the second stoplight, turn right onto Bedford. Drive up Bedford to North 6th Street. Turn left onto North 6th, and go two and a half blocks. Galapagos is between Wythe and Kent on the left. There is a large, vertical banner hanging out front.

From the BQE--if you're headed West--take the Metropolitan Avenue exit. This will put you on Meeker Avenue. At the 2nd stoplight, take a sharp right onto North 6th Street. Galapagos is between Wythe and Kent on the left. There is a large, vertical banner hanging out front.

From the BQE--if you're headed East--take the Metropolitan Avenue exit. At the 1st stoplight, turn left, and continue on Metropolitan for 5 blocks. Turn right onto Bedford Avenue, and then left onto North 6th Street. Galapagos is between Wythe and Kent on the left. There is a large, vertical banner hanging out front.

And here are some maps!

From Galapagos:



From Rand McNally: (Click them to get larger versions.)

hi! rob here. this is my first post-- ted's been doing the posting so far. this is not to imply that i have been sitting back idly, eating bonbons and looking through crate & barrel and modern bride catalogues. well, ok. i have been looking through crate & barrel catalogues and, well, ok, i do like bon bons. but i'm also watching my figure because i want to be able to fit into my new wedding suit.

anyway... i just want to let it be known that planning a wedding is a LOT of work. who knew?

the thing that's really scaring me is that there needs to be a COMMITTEE for EVERYTHING!

a food committee, a set up committee, a clean-up committee, a decorating committee, a decorating committee the day before the ceremony and a decorating committee the day OF the wedding. a committee to decorate the ceremony space, a commitee to decorate the reception space and a committee to decorate room #2 of the reception space. so that's what i've been trying to get organized. THE COMMITTEES.

i told my friend david that i need a committee to help me organize the committees! (by the way, david's on the decorating committee).

the wonderful thing about our wedding, though, is that it really is going to be a group effort (well, i'm only marrying ted though). what i mean is that we have such a great collection of creative, energetic, generous, gracious friends who are helping us with various aspects of the wedding-- ceremony and reception.

for example, the other day i was at Galapagos, which is where we are having the ceremony/reception, with my friend Aaron, who is doing flowers and decorations. well, if you've been to Galapagos, you know it is a bar/performance space most evenings. in fact, they often feature up and coming local bands and even have a burlesque show (which my dad was strangely intrigued to learn).

anyway, the night we were there we had to compete with a bongo player accompanying a angsty/folksy female singer/guitarist. that didn't stop aaron from running a tape measure across the stage (yes, during the performance), moving around bar stools, asking patrons to hold one end of the tape measure, and crawling under the bar. (he knows what he's doing folks, he works with martha).

but it's people like aaron and others who are helping to make our wedding so fun and unique and exciting. yes, i'm stressed. yes, i'm freaking out. yes, it's a lot of work and really i want to just be writing my book and eating bon bons. but it's going to be such a great day.

so, in closing, i want to reiterate: if anyone wants to help out with any of the committees-- food, decorating, pre-decorating, clean up, set up, etc. let me know.

if you'd like to commit to a committee i'll make sure you're committed. just say the word!