After months of dilly-dallying, developing, downloading, uploading, and organizing, our wedding photos are finally online, and on FlickR--which means you can comment on the pics and make prints of them! Here's the run-down of what's available:

• the whole collection is here; pour a glass of wine and view a slide show!
• pictures of the shower are here.
• pictures of the rehearsal dinner are here.
• pictures of us getting ready and arriving at the wedding are here.
• pictures of the ceremony are here.
• pictures of the toasts are here.
• pictures of the guests are here.
• still-life pictures of the wedding are here.
• pictures of the grooms are here.
• pictures of the after-party are here.
• pictures of our fabu wedding night hotel room are here.
• pictures of "the day after" festivities are here; of just the sunglasses, here.
• the original slide-show that was supposed to be running in the "prom room" at the wedding is here.

As an added bonus, we have VIDEO! A special, special thanks to Sandi, who did it on the fly. In hindsight, we should have had a videographer, but whatev: When Rob and I watched these a month ago, we cried. Please note, these are huge files, so if you have dial-up (hello, Mom and Dad), it will take you a while to download. Here they are:

• Rob's vows
• Ted's vows
• Hendrik and Laura's song-toast

Sadly, there's no video of Jason and Curtis singing "I Will Never Leave You," but I've made available the original Broadway cast recording. (Don't tell anyone.) For those of you who weren't at the wedding, Jason and Curtis sang the show-stopper from "Sideshow," which is about a Siamese twins in a freak show. Yes, the twins sing it. Ha. (So, when yoy listen, you'll have to imagine the song sung by men and lots of laughter in the backround.) Perhaps if we ask them nicely, Jason and Curtis will do a recording? Please?

The pictures from the shower and the black and white pictures from the wedding were taken by out generous and lovely photographer, Susan Miller. She also took some color pictures at the wedding, but they've gotten a little mixed up with the rest of the color pictures, which were taken by many people. But again: Thanks, Susan! You rock. And thanks to all the rest of you for taking pictures and, most importantly, for being there. It was an incredible, amazing day and we are so happy you were there to share it with us and each other.

We spent days putting together 250 images for a slide show that was going to run on the screen in the "prom" room during the reception. Stupidly, we didn't test it. And it didn't work. Something about XP Home and Rob's computer and the projector. Anyhoo, we've made the whole shebang availabvle on Shutterfly. You can watch it as a slide show and order prints of the images. Enjoy!

This is what should have appeared in The New York Times on Sunday (and you can click on it to make it bigger):

Feel free to email the Times to complain about its decision not to include us in their "Weddings and Celebrations" section. The section was four pages long on July 31, 2005, and the paper did not include any gay or lesbian couples. We sent our announcment six weeks in advance, and sent our photograph 12 days in advance--well within their published guidelines. The Society desk is society@nytimes.com. The Times Public Editor (their ombudsman) is public@nytimes.com. Letters to the Editor should be sent to letters@nytimes.com. Or all three!

The reason I say this is that someone got a little confused and went to Galapagos last Saturday:

You'll be pleased to know that I was at Galapagos at 5pm yesterday, melon in hand. I got there and there was a sign saying "closed for private party - wedding", so I asked if I could go in and put down my watermelon. The guy said yes, but that guests were only arriving at 6, which I thought was kinda weird, given that you had told me 4. So I chopped it up and put it on the tables, which were suspiciously empty of other food, and went out to have a drink.

I came back at 6, and the party was great. There were fire dancers and an MC and acrobats and all, and an open bar. No one else was wearing a tie, which I thought wasn't cool, since Ted had specifically asked the men to wear them, but I felt like a tool, so I took mine off too. I had a drink, and looked around for Ted, who is the only one I expected to know, but he wasn't there, so I figured they were going to make a grand entrance.

Anyway, I started talking to some people, and one guy asked me if I was a friend of the bride or groom. "I dunno," I said. "Whichever Ted is." The guy looked at me kind a funny, and said, "I think you mean Toby."

"Uhh, maybe," I said, thinking maybe it was Ted's pet college nickname or something. Then he said he was a friend of Neeley's, which I also thought was nice, but kind of irrelevant, since Ted is marrying Rob. More drinking, more chatting, he said they were friends from Harvard, which made sense, and then someone else came up to me and we went through the same thing again.

The first guy looks at me and says, "Dude, you're at the wrong wedding."

"No way," says I.

"Galapagos, Saturday, Rob and Ted."

"No," says he, "Toby and Neeley."

All the people we were standing around with start nodding and laughing.

"Are you just fucking with me?"

"Not at all, dude. Ask around."

So I asked a couple of people, and everyone confirmed that, indeed, it was Toby and Neeley's wedding at which I had walked in with a melon, cut it up and put it on tables, and had three G&Ts. Needless to say I did not have my invitation, which I lost the day after it arrived, but one of the guys let me use his blackberry to go online and check the wedding blog, which has all the useful information EXCEPT THE DATE. Bastard.

my gosh, there are so many things to think of when planning, preparing for your wedding. who knew? tons and tons of little and big things. i think i have 4 lists going right now (all on the kitchen counter) of what we need to do, buy, get done, make, decopauge, string together, mix and match, clean, wash, bedazzle, find matching fabric for, dry clean, make phone calls for, type up, photograph, order online, return to the store, call a friend about, email, blog, ask a sales associate, look in a catalogue, draw a sketch of, make a blueprint of, write out, find a recipe for, create an ipod playlist of, and on top of that hermia needs a bath!

i know i've said it before, but i'll say it again. thank heavens for our wonderful and supportive and generous friends.

ted and i are heading out today to pick up our rings and to find bowties and shoes for our suits. because, according to Etiquette Grrl Style webpage: "if you want to be Really Original and Snappy, at a daytime informal wedding, nothing beats a Seersucker Suit, Straw Boater, White Bucks, and a Bow Tie."

well, the Straw Boater may be pushing it, huh?

oh, and hey, while searching online for all things wedding, i came across a really lovely blog by two very sweet guys who got married last year. they blogged about the whole procedure--from the proposal to the ceremony and reception. (they started planning their wedding, even sending out save the date cards, and looking into spaces and hotels, 2 YEARS IN ADVANCE!!--JEESH!).
Anyway, read about their whole experience and see their pictures here. (you might click back to Sept. 2002, when they started their journey).

Rob here. i'm still recovering from my bachelor party but was asked by our lovely food wrangler (and my wonderful former brooklyn roommate), liz, to remind everybody to CONFIRM (OR REQUEST AN ASSIGNMENT--IF YOU HAVEN'T DONE SO ALREADY) with lovely foodwrangler and former roommate liz the edible/s you are bringing to the wedding.

1. so she can start getting final counts, and 2. so she knows what utensils and chafing type pans to get, how many sternos, and 3. mostly so she can scope out what delicious things she herself is going to try.




so can y'all email her (AGAIN, IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY--MANY OF YOU TOLD US ON THE INVITE WHAT YOU ARE BRINGING, OR POSSIBLY BRINGING, BUT NOW YOU GOTTA CONFIRM IT WITH THE LIZMEISTER) and tell her about your dainties, er, i mean, delicacies?

click here to email liz

SEE YOU ALL SOON!!


ps- hermia says to dust everything lightly with catnip

A couple of people--well, my mom and one of my aunts--have asked about the dressy-ness of the wedding. Well, it's not black-tie and it's not a hoedown. Guys should wear ties and girls should wear whatever you wear when a guy is wearing a tie. But the wedding is taking place at a refurbished mayonaise factory, so, really, no worries if you want to do something "festive."

I put this on my personal blog a few months ago. I am the bunny and Rob is the kitty-cat.

If you have 'em, bring 'em.